Religious Decision Making 101
By JOSHUA ROSENBLOOM
JEWISH U
A Contemporary Guide for the Jewish College Student
By Scott Aaron
96 pages. UAHC Press. $10.95.
One of my best friends from high school goes to a small
liberal arts college with a tiny Jewish population. A few weeks into his
freshman year, he called me with a dilemma. As a very good singer, he wanted
the chance to perform at his school. He had found out that the local church
paid a generous salary to members of the choir, who were not required to be
Christians. He had auditioned and been accepted—should he join? He wasn't sure
whether to feel uncomfortable about singing in a church, and rehearsals were
often held on Shabbat. Living on his own for the first time, he was confronted
by a challenge that pitted an extracurricular interest against his religious
values.
So many Jewish college students face similar questions about
their identities and practices. For the first time, the Jewish frosh has a
choice about whether to attend High Holiday services, light a Chanukah menorah,
keep kosher, observe the Sabbath, or engage in any Jewish life at all. The
choices of Jewish life and practice can be most difficult for students with
limited Jewish backgrounds and educations and for those at colleges without an
active Jewish student life. Until now, these students have had little in the
way of written guidance. Jewish U: A
Contemporary Guide for the Jewish College Student, by Rabbi Scott Aaron,
will serve as a good resource for the non-traditionally-observant Jewish
freshman as he or she begins to establish his or her own independent Jewish
identity.
Jewish U is
structured chronologically, starting before the first year, and begins with
"Lech L'cha: Preparing to Leave Your Parents' Home" and ending with
"Summer Vacation: Repairing the World While Working on Your Tan."
Along the way, Aaron explains the holidays in the Jewish year and suggests easy
ways to incorporate Jewish observance into college life. The holiday chapters,
covering the High Holidays, Chanukah, Purim, Passover, Shavuot, and Shabbat,
are perhaps the best in the book. Aaron offers practical advice for holiday
observance on both campuses with active Hillels and campuses with very little
Jewish life. He is always mindful of the difficult choices confronting the
college student—for example, what should you do when Yom Kippur and a chemistry
midterm coincide? Addressing the tendency of freshmen to rebel against their
parents by doing nothing at all for the holidays, Aaron issues the following
"challenge": "If you are a college student who is considering
exercising your new adulthood by rejecting the High Holy Days, consider
rejecting your uncomfortable childhood memories instead and try having an adult
Jewish experience."
This theme of recently arriving at adulthood permeates the
book, as Aaron tries to talk to his readers as adults instead of as children.
Unfortunately, his tone sometimes comes across as condescending—it is easy to
imagine a skeptical high school senior rolling his eyes at Aaron's approach.
The book also suffers from its brevity and its oversized format, which makes it
appear more like a school workbook than a useful guide. In structuring the book
as a long and perky sermon, Aaron sometimes loses his readers'
attention—anecdotes about real college students and their real-life dilemmas
might have helped.
Although it's certainly not perfect, Jewish freshmen should
not hesitate to read Jewish U. The
helpful websites listed in the margins, concrete suggestions for creating
Jewish life, and the relevance of topics like "Jews and Greeks: Making
Friends from a Jewish Perspective" and "Flowers, Candy, and Condoms:
Jewish Sexual Decision Making" will appeal to nervous incoming students at
any college or university. Each of these chapters successfully blends Jewish
values with the reality of campus life today—a goal toward which many Jewish
students struggle.
In the end, my friend decided to join the church choir. After
a year, he quit, though, because he felt that participating was compromising
his Jewish values. Perhaps, if this book had been available, my friend would
have chosen differently and not have joined the church choir in the first
place. Without a doubt, he would have had more help in considering the issue.